“I’ll get it done. I can multitask.”It sounds like strength, doesn’t it?Like you’ve got it all handled.
But let’s be honest: multitasking is just a prettier word for neglect.
Neglect of yourself.Neglect of the people you say you love.Neglect disguised as efficiency.
What we think we’re saying is: I can get everything done without asking for help.What we’re actually saying is: Nothing in my life is important enough to get 100% of me.
Most of us—especially women—have been trained to carry too much.To prove ourselves.To never say “I need help,”to never let the ball drop,to never let the mask slip.
We wear “I can multitask” like a medal, as though spinning five plates at once means we’re winning.
The truth?We don’t do five things well.We do five things badly, all at once.And over time, it costs us.
It doesn’t break you in one dramatic collapse.It chips at you in small, invisible ways:
I’ve sat at dinner with someone I loved, nodding at their words while mentally untangling work emails.I told myself it was harmless.It wasn’t.It was one of those small cracks where something precious started to slip through.
Sometimes, this is how affairs start.
Not out of malice, but out of the slow, steady message we give without even noticing:
“I have 100 things in my hands, and you are not one of them.”
When someone feels unseen, when they feel like they don’t matter, they look for someone who notices.None of us mean for it to happen.But neglect, dressed up as multitasking, opens that door.
The Chinese have a term: wu wei.It translates as “do nothing.”But it’s not about being idle.It’s about being completely present with what’s in front of you.
Making a sandwich for your child?That is the only thing you do in that moment.You feel their smile when you hand it over.You let it fill you.
Handing food to a stranger on the street?Be there.Don’t miss the gratitude in their eyes because your mind was elsewhere.
When you give your whole self to one thing at a time, life gives something back.But when you scatter yourself everywhere, you don’t really live anywhere.
Learning to slow down isn’t as simple as deciding to.When your mind has been trained to split itself in ten directions for years, stillness feels impossible.
This is where hypnosis has saved me, over and over.
It’s not a stage trick.It’s the opposite of losing control—it’s finally getting it back.In hypnosis, your mind learns what single-tasking feels like:breathing deep,being present,finding that quiet corner where one thought—one priority—gets all your attention.
The more you practice, the easier it becomes to return there on your own.To give one thing, or one person, the full weight of you.
And when you start doing that?Everything changes.
If humans were designed to do 20 things at once,we’d have multiple brains and extra arms.
We don’t.We have one heart.
And it can only beat for one thing at a time.
What if we made being fully present the new flex?Imagine a world where every conversation, every hug, every task got the best of us instead of the leftovers.What would that change in your life?Who would finally feel seen?Maybe even… you.
Disclaimer: This article is intended for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Please consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment.
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